tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post1370738391214495606..comments2009-04-25T11:37:41.886-04:00Mothering4Moneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11997640642902352560noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-20415163150286398792009-04-24T05:38:00.000-04:002009-04-24T05:38:00.000-04:00never had a story read to her. It's hard not to cry.silknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-80653920231867357102009-04-22T23:45:00.000-04:002009-04-22T23:45:00.000-04:00My understanding is that if she would have seriously suspected sexual abuse, then she would have taken the child to the doctor herself. I guess she has been doing this job long enough to be able to discern from what is just shady behavior versus what is serious abuse. I should probably have given her more credit, but I still feel the whole thing was minimized more than it should have been. There aren't any SANE programs in this local area although Google tells me there is one an hour north and several two hours south of here.<br /><br />Unfortunately relative placements are not held to the same standards as foster placements. They also don't get assistance which means legit, clean, good homes often times struggle to make ends meet in order to care for their relatives. Just another peculiarity in an already peculiar system. I'll have to look up The Rescuers as I'm not familiar with Penny.<br /><br />Umm, no, you can't take a break. Not allowed. Can't leave the rest of us to deal with this mess alone. Girl we gotta stick together!<br /><br />Sure you can mail the clothes or you could donate them locally to a foster parent association or charity of some sort in order to save on mailing costs. If you decide to mail them, we'll need to do the whole address exchange via email. Don't need any internet crazies coming up to ding dong ditch. LOL<br /><br />Thank you all for the support. Gives me warm fuzzies!Mothering4Moneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11997640642902352560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-54780833362490933902009-04-22T08:09:00.000-04:002009-04-22T08:09:00.000-04:00it always amazed me how independent foster toddlers were. i had a 20 mointh old boy who could make a complete sandwich.. at midnight. he is 15 now and STILL IN FOSTER CARE. no idea why. i only know because he has an extremely unique name and ended up with an aquaintence of mine... so sad. we would have adopted him back then....<br />anyway, tears flowing for you new girlie girl. i wanna call her Talia, no idea why. she just sounds like a Talia.<br />can i mail you a box of 3T's? LOL i have NO ONE to give them to, if you can belive that! ali in NHalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17987529367690926037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-28223826060459575132009-04-21T22:40:00.000-04:002009-04-21T22:40:00.000-04:00ahhhhhh, someone who knows my world.<br />I told someone today, it's truely like living in another diminsion. You can't explain this stuff to people and have them really understand. You have to experience it to know how insane it all is.<br />I want to go back to NOT knowing about foster care or the workings there of.<br />After these 2 leave, I think we've taking a break...a very long break.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09311320805081897725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-52565753709330063002009-04-21T18:32:00.000-04:002009-04-21T18:32:00.000-04:00Oh, and internet names. I have 2 boys- Hubby and I call them Biggest and Littlest :) <br /><br />As for princesses, Aurora is blonde with brown eyes. But I like Penny, the little girl from The Rescuers.Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05930832509544868744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-35586932950848361472009-04-21T18:09:00.000-04:002009-04-21T18:09:00.000-04:00Crazy on so many levels. This is why I don't think I could foster. After so long and so many kids the whole reunification thing should be thrown out the window. I'm all for reunification when a parent is really trying but it seems these kids are put through years and years of BS for no one but the parents benefit.<br /><br />No investigation!!?? I'd go nuts. And no checking out Gma or safety? I know it's really an unfair judgement but I'm perpetually confused as to why "they" think it's okay to place a child with the Gparents who in most cases contributed to the parents whacked-out-ness!Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05930832509544868744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949336701627312683.post-16812394239156599152009-04-21T16:07:00.000-04:002009-04-21T16:07:00.000-04:00AND NOBODY INVESTIGATED??? I'm so sorry for The New Girl that she's gone through so much already. I'm so glad she's with you and you're actually looking after her, unlike apparently every other adult who's ever come into contact with her. Sheesh.<br /><br />I'm pretty sure I know what state you're in although I have no idea where you are within the state, but anyway there do seem to be several of Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner programs there. Those are nurses who are specifically trained to perform rape kits and then testify in court as needed. I'm not sure if this is something you as a foster parent would be able to access for her. It might be worth a shot and better to get an expert than a pediatrician. Good luck.motherissueshttp://motherissues.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com