Revenge of the Middle Aged Woman

I just finished reading Revenge of the Middle-Aged Woman by Elizabeth Buchan and while it was a good book, I wish I hadn't read it. Not now anyway, bad timing (I read this book in 2009 - that should clue you in as to when the whole Darwin thing started).

The main character, Rose, is a middle-aged successful editor whose husband has a year long affair with her secretary/assistant. If that isn't bad enough, he decides to trade in his middle-aged wife for the assistant who is about the same age as his daughter. To add even more insult to injury, when Rose tells her boss that she wants the assistant moved to a different department, he fires Rose and gives the assistant her job. Her soon to be exhusband blames it on Rose, of course, and says he needs his freedom and new pussy, well he isn't that crass. He blames her for not giving him enough attention, etc. How dare she work and have interest outside of dicksucking. Then her cat dies and she is completely alone. Her exhusband kicks her out of the house they raised their children in and moves his new fuckbuddy in and they begin attempting to procreate. So alas, he didn't want freedom at all, he just wanted an upgrade to a newer model of wife. This is happening all around and it infuriates me.

I want to say to the women who go after married men "Why?" but I know the reason is because they tend to be more mature, better refined and the single scene is truly bleak. I want to say to the men "Why?" but I know most are more attracted to the firm 20something year old body, and exploring something new makes the men feel younger. It's their way of denying that they too are growing older. The part that I can't understand is why these men leave behind children, demand to end parental rights so they don't have to pay child support, and then go on to have more children. Why? Why is that person you met online / at work more desirable to you than the mother of your child(ren)? Why do you no longer take your wedding vows seriously? What happened to loyalty? Where are your morals? Why did it take you 9/10/11 years to decide that you didn't want to be a parent? That you didn't love me?









Yes, good book, bad timing.





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Field Trip Friday - A Day Out With Thomas the Train

We go to the Day Out With Thomas event every year but for some reason, I only blogged about it once before.

You Have No Idea - book review

I had no idea that Vanessa Williams has four kids. Is catholic. Has been married and divorced twice. And has such a spitfire mother. But she does! My favorite part of the whole book was something Helen Williams wrote about Vanessa's 2nd husband when he filed for divorce:

"I walked up to Rick and gave him a good whack on the back of his head. Of course I didn't hurt him. But I couldn't express my disappointment in words and there was his head - just available - waiting for me to whack it. I've never had an urge to whack someone's head like that before. I whacked it. I didn't say anything. I walked away. It felt good. I think I got my point across."

The book is written in a format that allows both mother and daughter to tell their own version of the same set of events; the two sides to every story. It made me think about how I view some events differently than my mother, even though we experienced the same event. And it makes me wonder how my kids are currently viewing the divorce versus how I view it.

You Have No Idea is a quick read and might just make a good Mother's Day present. I know it's what my Mom is getting (along with forgiveness and some solar lights for her front porch - shush).


Disclaimer: This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed herein are my own.

Going thru the Big D and I don't mean Dallas

Today was Divorce Day. I have no idea what else to say. But wanted to let you all know that this, this is what I've been going through, and it sucks.