Attempting Visits Again

Birth Mom contacted me again recently. She wants to see the kids. My ground rules are 1) they can't tell the kids to call them mom and dad, 2) we will only do monthly visits, not twice weekly like before, 3) i will not bring The Daughter to visits, and 4) i won't do visits by myself with Birth Parents and their friends. This resulted in Birth Dad saying he doesn't want to do visits at all. He said he is getting on with his life. Of course he went on and on texting me all day. So I'll pick Birth Mom up from her work and we will go out to eat lunch with the kids and then I'll take her home and drop her off. Here's to hoping it goes well.

Nevermind, BirthDads on a rampage again.

Me "BirthMom, are you still wanting to do a visit today? If so, I can pick you up after work like we discussed. Just let me know."

BirtDad "She at work right now."

9 minutes later

BirthDad "She will let you know we got other Things to do today and if you cant speak to me then you can stay at home and ill stop everything wont nobody see anyone"

1 minute later

BirthDad "Tell you what just stay home ok"

Me "I am giving BabyBoy a bath, not ignoring you, but didn't want to stop washing his hair to check message. About to dry him now as he is done."

16 minutes later

BirthDad "She gets off at 2 she needs to be home at 3 got things to do geting married tuesday so pick her up at work and yall have fun"

I want so badly to write back "so what are you gonna do if I don't return her by 3?" but instead I respectfully bowed out.

Me "That doesn't give us much time to visit. Perhaps we should do the visit another time then. Congrats on getting married."

Him "Well any visit is going to be a hour take it or not i realy dont care"

BirthMom is going to be disappointed when she gets off work (and has to walk home in the rain) because I'm not there. She'll think I stood her up, but I refuse to deal with Mr CrazyTown Controlling Asshole. Seventeen more days and we're free.