Why you shouldn't stand up to the all powerful social worker

Shadow probably does have FASD but I'll never know. Neither will she. Because I pissed the SW off at the only homevisit she ever did while Shadow lived here and she decided it best to move her. I demanded the SW do her fucking job. And even though CPS swears they don't retaliate, they do.

The SW said at the homevisit that Shadow absolutely would not be moving back, so Shadow finally had a little closure and began to move on. She started making more friends at school and agreed to look for a new home church. She has shown more progress in the past week than she has the whole three months she lived here.

The worker also said that Shadow's sisters were about to be moved from that home. CPS has some concerns about the home and foster parents. And the sisters were not doing well there either.

Then today, the SW called me right as Shadow got off the bus this afternoon to tell me she was moving back to her past home. Her excuse was that this placement isn't a good fit. Well, no shit Sherlock. I said that three Fing months ago. But why now? Why move her back just days after telling her that she couldn't go back, no matter what? What changed? What's going on that you aren't telling?

The worker said that the school counselor called her and told her that Shadow came to him upset and homesick and that he called to let her know because he felt he should pass that info on.

Shadow said she didn't go up to the counselor complaining, but that he called her up there asking about her home life. She said that the counselor told her that he received a tip by someone who was concerned about Shadow. All she said to the counselor was that she was homesick for her past school friends and her sisters who are still in the home that disrupted on her.

So who was the anonymous concerned person? Was it the CPS worker who called the school counselor? If so was she merely trying to have an excuse to move Shadow or are they trying to make allegations to stop the adoptions of BabyBoy and BabyGirl? CPS is annoyed at me for getting a lawyer and thereby preventing BabyGirl from remaining in foster care. Of course they didn't drop the petition so we have to go to court about that. Maybe in court if they have concerns about Shadow they can bring that up in court and stop the adoptions, even move the kids too. Or maybe I'm just being paranoid because I don't trust anybody. Ever.

Or maybe it was The Cheerleader. She tells everyone at that school that I was mean to her. She visited the counselor frequently to manipulate and tell him her sob stories of my torture chamber in the dungeon where I keep all foster kids. When she would tell her SW that I never let her do anything fun, that worker knew better because I sent her emails every time The Cheerleader left our home which was almost every single day. And I had to get permission to leave the state with her, which was numerous times to go to the beach for a week and other FUN places. The Cheerleader is jealous of Shadow. She thinks Shadow wants her boyfriend. Also, I just text'd with The Cheerleader yesterday and she was all nice and "luv u" and "miss you" but then told her boyfriend who then told his mom who then told me that she was tired of me texting her and that all I did was ask if she was still using protection. (i have our texts saved and we talked about shoes, her mom, college, etc not just condoms)

Or maybe it was The Cheerleader's boyfriends mom who is my childhood friend. More accurately my Childhood Frienemy. If we hadn't of grown up together, we wouldn't be friends. We go long stretches of time not speaking and those are the more peaceful times. She stabs me in the back, lies to me and about me, spreads rumors about me, and most recently called CPS telling them if we didn't get to keep BabyGirl that she wanted her. She denied that of course but she didn't realize the SW would ask me about her. Busted. She didn't care anything about being a teacher until I became one. She didn't care anything about fostering until I started. She didn't like bald dudes until I married one. She didn't want a big family until I got one. She started trying to get The Cheerleader to come live with her before she ever left foster care and now she does stay overnight there a lot. Supposedly on the couch, of course. When we were growing up, she would become BFF with whatever guy I was dating. She would invite him over to play basketball on a Friday night and since we lived right across the road from one another, within spitting distance, I could see them. She'd coax my exhusband into giving her foot massages. She always thinks she knows more than me, thinks she does everything better than me, and tunes me out when its my turn to talk on the phone.

Or maybe it was the foster parent that subs at the school. The one who has been trying to get Shadow to come live with her. The one that told Shadow about that past drama that she shouldn't have known about. We got one of this woman's foster kids once ... she had disrupted on her and she came here to live and we loved her, still keep in touch, but this foster parent spread rumors about the girl and us anyway. But she is kin to two CPS employees and her husband is a, or rather the detective, so there is no stopping her.

Or maybe I'm just being paranoid and Shadow's worker just thought about the situation and decided that Shadow would be better off back at her old home with her sisters. Even though the message being sent to her is that if she doesn't mind them, that they will send her away. Even though they told her she can't bring her Twilight books that she got for Christmas because they are the works of Satan. And she won't be able to date anymore. Or go out with friends. Or watch TV. Because all those things are against their religion. But those foster parents, who just last week were a concern to the SW, are not the type to stand up to the worker and demand that Shadow get tested or psychiatric help or tutoring. And according to Shadow her SW only did a homevisit once or twice a year instead of every month, and the previous foster parents just let it go. And I didn't.

I might could stop obsessing if I weren't so worried that they are up to something else. I figure they won't place any other kids with us for a while. After we got BabyBoy, they didn't give us another kid for a whole year. Or they may just tell us to hand in our license. They went from wanting me to move up from VP to President of the foster parent association to not wanting me involved at all. This was told to the current President yesterday.



Now switching gears slightly, someone who shall remain nameless called the insurance company again armed with the legal info so they couldn't turn us down. This time though he was past the 31 day mark. I got mad and yelled and cursed because BabyGirl has yet to see a doctor and now she has a cold and her umbilical cord area is turning red. I've called and made an appointment for next week, so don't freak out and send hatemail. She's been fine overall but needs shots. Anyway, we now have insurance on them supposedly but they had to file some special paperwork since we were beyond the 31 day mark. If only someone who shall remain nameless had been more forceful when he first called and not let them blow him off, this could have been done the day we became her legal guardians.