Monday, December 28, 2009

My Baby Mama is driving me nuts

10:00 PM she calls wanting me to come pick her up and take her home. Like I'm supposed to wake up and then load up 4 kids and go out into the 20 degree weather, drive all that way, take her home, then be guilted into giving her more money. You know money for drugs kerosene and groceries.

Lets go backwards, like that episode of Seinfeld.

6:00 PM phone is ringing as I'm holding newborn and making her bottle while 22 month old is sitting on my feet holding onto my legs riding along like a monkey and 6 year old is standing by my side asking me to open her DVD she got for Christmas. I laugh thinking even if BirthMom could see what was happening in our house, she would still pester the shit out of me.
She calls to let me know she made it to the hospital. She is in the ER but there is a long wait. She's "just letting me know" but says it like she is expecting me to come get her when she is done.

4:39 PM she calls from her neighbors phone, again. Still at Health Dept getting birth certificate for adoption.

3:52 PM calls from neighbors phone, but I'm at the Health Dept so don't answer.

3:01 PM sends a text message from neighbors phone. Can't get in touch with SW, can't get ride to Post Office, "or nothing"

2:57 PM she calls from her neighbors phone saying she still needs a ride to the hospital.

2:19 PM calls again complaining, crying, hinting, begging. I tell her to let me get off the phone and think about what we might can do for her without looking like we are bribing them or buying them off. Go talk to The Husband about what to do.

1:44 PM, sends text message from Some Other Person's phone saying she still hasn't been able to get a ride to post office to get certified letters. Assumes the letters are from CPS regarding BabyGirl.

1:41 PM calls from a phone number that I don't recognize. This is some other person she knows who allows her to use their phone. I don't answer.

10:27 AM she calls for the first time of the day. She's using someone's phone that she hasn't called me from before. We talk for 20 minutes. During this time she cries, threatens to kill herself, gets mad that I'm not helping her like the previous adoptive person did, insinuates that CPS paperwork they got in the mail says we are unfit due to abuse and neglect (it means the previous adoptive person, not us), and blatantly asks for money. Says she is in pain and needs more pain medication. I mention that she has gone through two Rx's for pain pills in 14 days, both prescriptions were for a 30 day supply, so 60 highly addictive pain pills in two weeks. She alludes to someone stealing her pills. I ask if she is taking her depokate and she says it isn't working but doesn't say if she is taking it or not. She goes on and on about needing a ride to the ER or money and a ride to a walk-in clinic and some money for kerosene because they are freezing. I ask if BirthDad can't get a job working with someone who lives in the trailer park that has a vehicle. Excuses, excuses, excuses. Not once did she ask about the kids.

Hey, at least she let us sleep in this morning.

3 comments:

Jess said...

If it were me, I'd change my phone number.....then again, that might just encourage her to show up at your house....tough spot, I wish I had something more useful to say. I will say this, you're a rockstar for doing all you do.

ali said...

time to cut them off. you have to, dont you? this is insane!

Mom 4 Kids said...

Wow! How are you putting up with this? Insane is right! Hugs to you!