Blogging Anonymously, or trying to

I write the details that I do, because of perceived anonymity. I don't use real names. I don't post pictures of foster kids. I don't reveal our location. In fact I have been intentionally misleading about where we live. This is the only way I can get away with being honest about our experience fostering & adopting through the state.

When going through classes, we were told you can't even tell your friends you are a foster parent. It is supposed to be a secret. Sharing this information is a breach of confidentiality. Yet I'm sure all our friends wonder why we have a plethora of kids come and go like there is a revolving door to our lives.

In classes the SW tells you that you have to draw strength and resources from the community, but you can't reveal that you are a foster parent. That's like calling to ask for a donation for a charity but you can't reveal which charity. Nobody's going to take you seriously and you sure as shit won't get a donation. A doctor can more readily diagnose a child if they know the child's previous circumstances. If I take a kid to the therapist and say s/he is my bio kid neuro-typical and nurtured since birth but is exhibiting all kinds of behaviors, the RADs and FAEs and ODD and so on and so forth might go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed.

My point is that I feel it is important to say we are foster parents. It is important to share our story. Maybe from reading about our journey, others won't go into this whole thing being as naive as we once were. Maybe others can learn how to navigate this fucked up system, this includes birth parents. I want to help birth parents too. But I can't continue to blog here if my identity is revealed. If you know my real name, please don't post it in comments. If you know where we live, please don't share that with others. And I ask that you also not allude to our personal information on your own blog as all someone has to do is Google M4$ and your post will come up as well. Thank you for understanding.

Recently Outed but Hoping it Gets Deleted,
Mothering4Money