Today Shadow asked if she could go to the movies and see New Moon again. This time she wants to ride with a friend from school, a friend whom I haven't met, a friend whose parents I don't know, a friend who may or may not have a clean driving record. When I told Shadow that I didn't know enough about this person for her to ride in a vehicle with her, she said "Her parents are still together." As if that matters? Oh, but in God's eyes it does, she said. This friend could have a couple of wrecks and speeding tickets under her belt and her parents could be pedophiles, but hey they are still married so it's all good.
Do you remember that boy Shadow fell in lust with from across the court at the basketball game? The one she hadn't met yet. The one that's younger than her. Well, OMG he's like going to maybe talk to her at school soon. And because of that, she doesn't want to go back to her old school now even though there is a home that may possibly consider taking Shadow. She said that she didn't want to leave that school because of a boy she liked who had a girlfriend and repeatedly told Shadow that he was just her friend but now she doesn't want to leave this school because the boy she saw from across the room and has stalked ever since might actually speak to her at school after thanksgiving break!
Also, she really really really likes The Cheerleader's half brother ... who is 13 years old. Shadow is 18.
Sometimes I think maybe she just doesn't understand how a family operates because of spending time in a group home, but she lived with grandparents for 10 years and with her mom for 5 years so really only three years of her life has been spent in various foster homes and a group home.
At the movies the other night I saw her come out, look at me, and take off in the other direction so I followed her. She went into the bathroom and I let her know I was there too. She left her stall and went into another, then when she came out she went to talk to her friend's foster mom and ignored me. I mean my direct questions were met with silence and she refused eye contact. It was weird. On the way home I tried to talk about it but she wouldn't acknowledge what I was talking about.
Yes, I will be requesting more tests and neuro stuff but right now her SW is on maternity leave until December and her worker's supervisor is on vacation until December so it'll have to wait.
Positives:
Her room is spotless
She has made friends
Her doodling is cute and creative
She wants to go to college
2 comments:
keep looking at the positives! all youve got!
I struggle with that Ali, but today was good, so yay!
Here's a positive (depending on how you look at it) regarding Shadow ... she wants us to be her forever family. She wants permanency. She wants a home to go to for holidays. And occasionally, she will think critically about something that I challenge her on.
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