New developments in The New Girl's case

Okay, let's review ... The New Girl is removed from her BioMom due to habitual drug usage, repetitive incarceration, child endangerment, etc. BioMom is given multiple opportunities to regain custody of her children. Over a period of years she is eventually TPRd on all her kids. All four or five kids were placed with relatives. Some were placed with their respective Paternal Grandparent (all have different baby daddies so they were all separated). The New Girl was placed with her Maternal Grandma who also does drugs and places The New Girl in danger by driving into oncoming traffic while medicated with who knows what. She was not placed with her Paternal Grandparent because CPS ruled her as unfit (i don't know the specifics of why). Due to the Maternal Grandparent's dangerous drug induced driving, and the fact that all relatives were unacceptable placements, The New Girl entered foster care.

Two weeks into The New Girl's placement with us, the Maternal Grandma can't be located to obtain simple information such as medicaid number, social security number, birth information, etc. Which further delays getting The New Girl enrolled in HeadStart and other things. The case plan appears to be the Maternal Grandma getting clean via going to color code, and obtaining her own housing separate from BioMom, and then regaining custody of The New Girl.

Two weeks and two days into The New Girl's placement with us, the Paternal Grandma hires a lawyer and files a petition for custody. This same day Maternal Grandma mysteriously resurfaces and says she wants to visit with The New Girl. Just like that, the worker schedules a visit ... Maternal Grandma doesn't have to prove that she is clean for this visit! This is a decision in which I do NOT agree.

First thing next week I graciously get to take The New Girl to visit with her needle toting, pill popping, meth head of a Maternal Grandma. I also get to find a sitter for BabyBoy so that I can supervise the visit and then deal with the heart wrenching aftereffects of a child being pulled away from a loved family member. And then go home and deal with the regressions in behavior. And then hope like hell that nobody follows me home or makes note of my tag number or begins to harass our family. Oh goody, can't wait!

Court date is a week after that. I'm more optimistic about that. The Paternal Grandma obviously cares enough to try and get The New Girl. She has enough money to hire a lawyer so she probably has financial means to care for The New Girl. When I asked if The New Girl knew who she was, she did and mentioned all her clothes and toys that she has at her house. She also said she takes her to see her daddy in prison. So, it sounds promising for The New Girl. Maybe at this month's homevisit we'll find out why this individual was previously found "unfit".

Meanwhile The New Girl enthusiastically exclaimed "I want to stay here forever!" and I would be okay with that too.