It snowed on Monday. Just a light dusting and it mostly didn't stick to the roads. Usually if it snows here or even gets really cold, school is canceled, but not on Monday. TheDaughter woke up complaining of a stomach ache and I thought it might be related to the snow so I told her she had to go to school anyway. She started to cry and didn't get out of bed so I thought maybe she really was sick, so I let her stay home. I started thinking she might just be upset with the stuff going on related to her dad (another work related trip). When I get upset my stomach is the first thing to rebel. Thirty minutes after school started, TheDaughter got up and wanted to play in the snow. I said no way. If you are too sick for school, you are too sick for snow. That afternoon as the snow began to melt, I let her go out and build a small snowperson. Probably teaching her she can manipulate me since I'm such a push over.This morning she woke up saying she was too tired to go to school. Her bedtime is at 8 but she stalls and misses out on sleep. When I told her she was to get up and get herself dressed or she would have to go in her pajamas with her hair all a mess (today was pictures with santa) she started saying her stomach hurt. I thought, Oh I'm not falling for this again. Get up! Fifteen minutes later she was still in bed saying her stomach really did hurt. At that point we had about 20 minutes to get her dressed, hair combed, breakfast, teeth brushed, and drive her to school. I was supposed to go help decorate for the foster association christmas party, so I needed her to get with it. I half wanted to go back to sleep myself and half wanted to yank her out of the bed and make her go disheveled. But her stomach! So I let her stay home. I went to call the foster association president to let her know I couldn't come help this morning, and while I was on the phone with her N got up out of bed and began playing. Umm, NO. Go to bed or go to school. So she went to bed and read books.
I'm making her drink mirilax now because I think she has been holding her poop again and that might be why her stomach hurts. Or maybe she is just playing hooky. Either way, I've already had a talk with her about how mommy can go to jail if she misses too many days of school and also told her how if she lies and says she is sick when she is not, that when she really is sick I might not believe her. At first I didn't want to reward her with my attention, but now I'm beginning to think that is exactly what she is wanting - to be taken care of. So I'm off to cuddle with her, make chicken soup, and color. Next time though, she isn't staying home unless she has a fever or vomit.
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my hubby was once gone working for a year, just a few months after I had a baby, and it was absolutely horrid. He was so depressed that he neglected taking care of certain things that were VERY harmful to us as a family. As far as I'm concerned, it is a TOTAL power play, in our case, a bid to force me to takeover things he doesn't feel like dealing with. I love him but I still don't trust him, and it's very hard on the relationship and the kids. I have nothing to offer to comfort you except to say that it sucks. All I have is empathy, I have no idea of a solution. I think my dh must be a coward to be the bully of his wife and children in that way. We do love each other, that I'm certain of, and it has sustained us through twenty years. But I have had to neglect my health for similar reasons to yours, and it is very very frustrating. I think, what if something happens to me, will he step up to take care of the kids? I know my foster daughter would be OUTTA here if I was gone. That would crush our bio kids. And I do ask myself if I knew then what I know now, would I still have gotten married? So hard to raise children with someone you don't trust. And he willingly now admits he has a problem, just refuses to do anything about it. I guess I should see his admission as progress, but it isn't much comfort.
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